You can’t please everyone.
This an important lesson to be learned not only in life in general, but also in the world of social media. You can
No, this post is not going to lecture you on how to react when a guy still hasn’t called you a week after your first date. I’m going to talk about what it’s like to be rejected in the world of social media.
A key point in social media is about forming relationships. Getting to know people, communicating with them.
Fact of the matter is, not everyone is going to love you. They are not all going to be bowing down at your feet thinking you’re a blogging god. But some of the them will. This is why gaining a loyal following is so much more important than gaining a big following.
Someone visits your blog once, leaves a nice comments, but never returns. You can make up about every excuse in the book as to why they didn’t. Maybe they forgot to bookmark the site, maybe their computer was stolen, maybe they’re just busy working on their own blog. Or maybe, they’re just not that interested. You filled a need. You’re not providing what they thought you would. It doesn’t necessarily mean you’re doing anything wrong. It’s just a relationship that isn’t meant to be.
Don’t get discouraged. Don’t give up. There will be plenty more readers for you to knock the socks off. Eventually you will find and build the relationships that ARE meant to be.
On my way to becoming the next creative genius.
by Stan Faryna
31 May 2011 at 16:40
Hi Britt:
So you want to be a creative genius?!
As an entrepreneur, creative director and online strategist working in social media, design and technology for umpteen years, I gotta say that’s a tall order. Taller than an iced Trenta double six shooter hazelnut latte.
But it’s the right multi-disciplinary track – if you want to understand the intertubes, trends, and opportunities.
A good part of building a community around your blog is going out there and building communities around other people’s blogs, Facebook posts and tweets. Not everyone is playing that way, however. So there will be more miss than hit.
SO… have fun with it.
Stan
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by Brittany Rubinstein
31 May 2011 at 17:39
Yea. There’s definitely a lot of amazing, talented and creative people out there so the competition is rough. But I believe I have the passion and drive for it so anything is possible, right? Thanks for the advice!
by Stan Faryna
31 May 2011 at 18:46
Passion and drive are great starters. Seek deep insight and hard facts. Don’t drink anyone’s kool-aid. Take risks, make mistakes, and do amazing things. Rinse and Repeat.
The worst trap is the talk trap. The big three dumb mistakes to avoid are (1) not learning from your mistakes, (2) being dishonest – especially with yourself, and (3) not connecting and collaborating with others.
by Ryan Critchett
07 Jun 2011 at 01:25
Huge identification. I think too many people try to get everyone to like them and as a result, become extremely unproductive and have a lot of emotionally ass kicking problems!